My biggest learning over the years is that to live a full and authentic life we need to take risks. Yep, that meant me too!
Firstly, I had to get over my fear of taking risks. 🙂
For me, the most difficult part was getting out of my own head. But most importantly having the courage to reinvent myself at a time when I was at my most vulnerable.
After my marriage dissolved it was time to do some serious reflection and determine a path forward.
It was in this moment that I first realized that the limiting factor was in fact me!
And that if I truly wanted to create the life I’d always dreamed of I had to evolve and change my thinking and indeed the way I looked at life.
Not just on the surface but deep down, for as we all know our actions speak louder than our words.
Firstly, I had to rid myself of the ever present victim mentality and all the negative emotions associated with it.
It’s difficult when this has been ingrained into your psyche for years…
I began to look for the inherent good in situations and those silver linings, and not let my emotions dictate my response.
I also knew that to be successful I had to control my own destiny. However, to do that I had to rewire my brain and approach life on a different plane.
Deciding to no longer to let negative emotions guide me I began a reinvention from the inside out.
It all began with changing my mindset! 🙂
Challenging my old norms with a dogged determination and self discipline to stay focused on creating a new destiny wasn’t easy.
I often found myself sinking back into old habits and negative thinking more times than I care to say.
I guess that’s what happens with decades of negative thoughts programmed inside your head. The key was to let go and remind myself constantly that this was the only path forward.
As with anything in life, the more you practice the more automatic it becomes. I noticed that my outlook on life was having a positive effect on those around me. Nice!
I’m sure you’ve all heard of the butterfly effect?
The theorist Edward Lorenz posited that that small things can have non-linear impacts on a complex system. The concept he imagined was that a butterfly flapping its wings could causing a typhoon in the future.
I’m not sure that this is possible on the scale that he outlined, but I do believe that the changes in one person’s approach to living life can impact more than just themselves.
And that if you become a beacon of positivity that those concentric circles can touch the lives of many, not just close to you but in the many degrees of separation from you.
I would like to think that my journey over the last ten years has done just that. By living a positive life and documenting my story and thus championing my journey I hope that it has allowed others to rethink their lives and make positive changes as well.
As I’ve said many times this is not easy. The inertia of history and living within your comfort zone is often too compelling to make the changes necessary to move forward on the scale required to reinvent yourself.
Reinvention isn’t just a one time thing. During my journey the concept of reinvention has been a constant companion as I’ve continued to evolve my thinking and my life.
Ultimately though, changing your thinking will only get you so far.
As we all know “the rubber hits the road” when we convert that thinking into tangible actions.
It’s one thing to think and say you’re reinventing yourself but an entirely different to then put that into action.
For me it was leaving the corporate world and starting my own business. Yes, that meant leaving a high paying and prestigious job to start again from scratch.
To be clear there was no safety net! Although super scary at the time it was the best thing I ever did!
Why you ask?
Working for gave me purpose but mixed with a passion for what I was doing it aligned and reinforced my new thinking. This was the game changer!
I now own my destiny.
As I settle into my new life here in Australia it’s been a great way to review and reshape my approach to living life in this next chapter.
This past week I registered Indelible Adventures in Australia as a company, so you’ll have to stay tuned to see how it all unfolds downunder.
All I can say is that I’m super excited about my future endeavours and wake every morning raring to go.
I have the world at my feet!
Wondering how to start? Let’s start with a few simple questions which will require some navel gazing time from you…. 🙂
Is your mindset holding you back from having the life you’ve always wanted and dreamed about?
What are you most afraid of?
Do you have a plan to get started?
Remember to start with small things and commit to them as if your life depended upon them…cos it does!
No better time than now to take a step back and reevaluate your life and take stock.
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Until next week!